I reread a bunch of my blog posts recently and I figured I should do an update just incase there is someone out there following this.
Last year I endured one of the most emotional experiences in my life and another situation that was one of the most physically painful. I have used these experiences to push myself and I believe I have come out the other side a better person, though scarred.
My company gave discounts for anyone that wanted to join Weight Watchers. Three of my coworkers signed up and tried to talk me into it as well. I have never been one who believes in dieting; portion control is what I feel is best along with exercise. Dieting often leads to binging later.
It started slow, a comment here and there and eventually started coming almost daily. They would get there little "calculators" out and tell me how many points were in my food. I politely asked them to stop as I was not part of the program and I mentioned the problem to my boss. It continued for two more months. One day, when I was home on vacation, I received a picture text of a fat girl eating brownies telling me how many points were them. I lost it. Not only had I put up with this for three months at work but now they were harassing me at my house. I went to work the next day and told my boss that one more comment and I would go to HR. She got mad and told me I was being a baby that we all need to lose weight. Oh, I guess that makes it ok.
For the next month my coworkers wouldn't speak to me. Not only the ones harassing me, but my boss and several others as well. I talked to my boss' boss about it. The first thing he asked was if in wanted to go to HR because he thought I had a case. I didn't want to make things worse. All I ever wanted was for it to stop. He said he would talk to my boss about how she handled it and although she never apologized, she did state that she could see how I could take it as harassment.
Nearly 4 weeks after the shunning had begun, on August 8th, I was in a car accident. Nothing horrific, but I did suffer a broken sternum, swollen hand, and back pain. Amazing how a car accident can encourage those who are shunning you to suddenly change their attitude. My coworkers began talking to me again.
I was in therapy for a month and a half. The pain got so bad that for about 3 days I thought I would die every time I stood up. Around the three week mark I suddenly started feeling better.
The day I was released from doctor's care, October 1st, I started working out. I would ride my exercise bike, do a 7 minute workout app on my phone, and do yoga. By December I had lost 10 pounds. I kept going, went to a nutritionalist, learned new ways to healthy up some of my favorite dishes, and bought a bike. As of today, I am down 30 pounds and my legs are solid.
Another thing I did was make a New Years resolution to be nice. I believe that most things that happen to you in life are because of decisions you have made. So I thought that maybe the harassment I endured was partially my own fault. I can be gossipy and can open myself up to coworkers as if they are friends. I had changed departments at work to get away from the negativity and I try not to talk too much to my new coworkers, rather keep them at arms length. I also try to not talk about people and this is sooooo hard but I am doing much better.
I decided also that I needed to put good karma out into the universe. I joined Habitat for Humanity as a volunteer in their coffee shop at the local restore. I figured I would do a good deed, meet new people and find a part of me that has been missing for a while, being able to be comfortable talking to strangers. I have made some friends there and have gotten out and done more things.
To recap what I am catching you up on
1. I have lost 30 pounds
2. I have made some friends so when my other friends are busy, I don't feel so upset
Something I didn't mention above, I may have met a good guy. We had our first date Saturday and went for lunch again today. Fingers crossed, I think this might actually go somewhere!
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